The Novelty of Learning

I have reached a point in my life where I have been faced with the decision of choosing between betterment, and comfort. Like most people, I was forced onto the path of betterment as a child through the traditional K-12 schooling, although I would argue my personal experience was far from traditional. The external motivation that both my parents and society brought upon me was set forth with the intent to ensure I would be able to adapt as an adult in normal society.

But what happens after graduation? The concept of betterment is now challenged with every day life. Fitness, diet, relationships, leisure time, all become battles for your individual will power to become the person you will become. Do I spend time with my friends, or my significant other? Do I go to the gym, or do I relax in front of my xbox? Do I spend the afternoon meal prepping, or do I grab fast food? After graduation, motivation no longer is external, and whatever path you choose dictates the individual you will become. Once that path has lead you to comfort, the question I would pose is, “Have you found your destination?”

I began my business more than a decade ago, and my goals were simple. Within 10 years I wanted to; learn the industry, open a barbershop, own a home. Now that I have reached my initial goals, how does my internal dialogue balance comfort vs. further betterment?

Looking back at all of my past decisions, the most difficult choices are the ones that made me a better person. My divorce, quitting alcohol and marijuana, taking fitness seriously. Each one had a challenging wall to climb, but after passing through those barriers I am now healthier in my body, my relationships, my career, and my overall mental state.

Ultimately, I have determined, for myself, that the temporary discomfort experienced in the pursuit of personal betterment (in all of these areas of life) is what provides me interesting life to lead, and I find meaning in that struggle.

Taking the homeschooled experience of my youth, I am now starting on a path of further education with a curriculum I built for myself. No external force has told me that I need to do this, but I have finally found the novelty in wanting to do this.